My favourite thing about weddings is comparing the quality of the invites, American Psycho-style. That’s some lovely embossing… What a novel font… Oh look, I’ve got glittering bell confetti all over my carpet, that’ll be annoying to clear up… and so on. My next favourite thing about weddings is figuring out what to wear. As a man, the choices seem to be quite limited: a suit, or a blazer and trousers. That needn’t be boring, though. In this column I spend a lot of time espousing the virtues of simplicity. But a wedding provides an opportunity to put on a much nattier suit than you typically wear to the office. You can really cut loose. Have some fun.
About a year ago I persuaded my best friend Dr Leonard to buy a lovely suit from Jigsaw. It is slim-fitting in a light and dark grey small check. It’s terrific. Dr Leonard is a teacher and to my chagrin hadn’t worn the suit once, because he was worried that it was “too spicy” (his words) and that the kids would ridicule him. Finally, on the last day of term, he wore it. And, as I had assured him all along, the kids loved it. They thought sir looked very dapper. This has given him confidence in the suit and he is planning to wear it to a wedding later this autumn. That is exactly the kind of thing men should be wearing.
My other friend, who is the editor of a popular high-end men’s fashion website, and as you’d expect dresses very well, sometimes makes his wife worry that he will upstage the groom with his outfit. I think that’s nonsense. The only way to upstage the groom would be to snog the bride when the registrar asks about lawful impediments (don’t do that).
So forget about plain navy and plain grey suits. Save them for work. Get yourself into some checks or exaggerated herringbone. Even experiment with colours – a bit of red in a grey check, a royal blue seersucker, a bold black and white check (very Alexander McQueen). The only thing to remember is that if there is a lot going on with your suit or blazer, keep the rest of your attire simple. A plain white shirt teamed with an unpatterned pocket square and tie will set off the textures of the suit beautifully. If the wedding is in the summer, it’s fine to go sockless with a pair of loafers. I’ve never plucked up the courage to wear a T-shirt under my suit, but it would certainly come in handy on the sweaty dancefloor.
This should be obvious, but just in case it isn’t, the rule about not wearing white to a wedding applies equally to men. You don’t want to look like a member of the Liverpool FC team circa 1996.
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